YS II:30-31 Yama consists of non-violence, truthfulness….
And non-violence means not just not killing, but also not causing others to be disturbed or get upset.
So how do you break up with your boyfriend–should you tell him he’s obnoxious (the truth) or should you admit psychological incapacity translated into “it’s-me-not-you” (so he won’t get upset)? Or is there a compromise? That is, is there a way of telling him he’s obnoxious in such a way that he’d actually feel good about himself but at the same time would be willing end your relationship?